Duty Reciprocating
I am a fairly sophisticated man, but I have a question about a social dynamic.?
I once invited a couple to join me for dinner at a local restaurant. It was a couple with whom I been aquainted for some time but we had never, as couples, gone out together.
At the end of the meal I took the check from the waitress and prepared to pay it. My guest, expectedly, argued with me about who should pay. I insisted, stating that it was I who invited them to dinner. The debate became, not angry, but vigerous. I won and paid the $100 bill.
It seems to have ended our friendship. They never called us and never reciprocated in any way.
So let’s see, I paid and they got mad. Go figure. So, was I out of line to pay the bill.
Nothing was pre-arranged about payment of the bill. I just felt it my duty, as the invitor, to pay the bill.
Hi- sorry that happened to you. People can be weird with money and what they perceive to be their social expectations. When you mentioned that the bill became a debate that then became vigorous, you both lost and it sounds like it had turned into an unfortunate miscommunication. In some odd way, it turned into a machimso- thing, or obviously was perceived as that. Perception and personal sensibilities can creep into simple social transactions. In a case like that, it would have been prudent for you both to just split the bill.
If you really like the company of this other couple, or are feeling like you have to try to “make it better”, a simple phone call and a statement that you are sorry for making them uncomfortable should suffice. Do NOT belabor the point! Keep it super-short and sweet. I warn you: you might take it on the chin again. Decide if they’re worth it or just move on and make new friends.
I wish you good luck with this odd situation! (next time, split the bill!!!) ~Mich~
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